My mother died last night. And the news has shaken us all very hard. She was a fighter, and fought very hard until the end of her life – a life filled by always putting other people first. I loved my mother, for many reasons, but most of all because she was always there for me, and would always make sure that her children had what they needed to be a success in life. And we are. My brother and I both have great careers, and have a wonderful future, live in wonderful homes, love wonderful women, have all the things we could ever want.
I think I’m still very much coming to grips with what this all means, because I’ve never had to deal with something quiet like this before, and I’m sure I’m still in shock. It was amazingly poetic last night as we drove to the hospital for the last time, that the first snow of the season had started to fall. She always loved snow – a transplanted SoCal girl, she always loved the fact the New York had four seasons, and she loved the leaves in the fall, and snow in the winter. I like to think she choreographed it – this would be the night to go out on – the flakes were big and beautiful, and the night was quiet.
Goodbye, mom. I miss you already. Thank you for everything you’ve done for me, and all of us.
Sidebar: The only thing my mother loved more than snow was pets. We always had an assortment of cats, and dogs and hamsters around, but we got 20+ years of love and affection, and support out of animals we gave to and got from the North Shore Animal League, based on Long Island. It’s the world’s biggest no-kill adoption shelter.
If you feel the need to give, in lieu of any other flowers or donations, please donate to North Shore Animal League in memory of Debra Knell. If anything has to come out of her loss, it should be that some wonderful animals find real love like our pets did with us.
Thank you for your thoughts, and prayers, and wish wishes and support at this time. I can’t tell you all how much it means to me and my family.